Dating a pretentious man
As verses five and six say: "Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men." Another translation says it this way, "your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus." Recently I heard about a man who said women "laughed in his face" when he initiated relationships with them.I was puzzled to hear this report because this man would be considered generally attractive, outgoing and godly. Even accounting for possible hyperbole in this report, I was still saddened.
We should not look down on any godly man, but thank him for demonstrating trust in God by risking such a request.
We should build him up and make it easy for him to step out once again, even if we are not giving him the answer he wants.
Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others." Let me break that down.
Do nothing from conceit (don't think of yourself more highly than you ought).
While he worries about the possible rejection of one woman, I can usually think of a half-dozen others who would jump for joy if he pursued any of them.
So it's with detached amusement that I listen, marveling that this is a lot harder for men than I ever imagined in years past.
I'm also not suggesting these ideas apply to the unwanted attention of ungodly or dangerous men.
My focus for this article is on the relationships of single men and women within the church.
Here's a frequent conversation that I've been having over the last two years.
Sitting across from me will be an attractive man, anywhere from 18 to 35.